This is such a great reframe. I think people often mistake low demand with having no boundaries (and sometimes that may be the case but it doesn't have to be). It's about changing an approach. Moving away from demands (although not always possible) and focusing on our own boundaries, and collaborating to meet everyone's needs.
My daughter also doesn't want to get rid of any of her her things. I often feel like I need to decanter just because it feels like we have too much stuff. But the reality is that right now we do have enough space. And when I know longer feel like we do, then that will be my boundary.
You brought back memories, so much of how you approach this sounds like how I was - once I'd started to clear out the conditioned, negative thought habits in my head (all the 'shoulds' and perfectionist ideals) and start paying attention to what was needed - and wanted - in the here and now.
There's a lot to appreciate here, but I mostly want to say that my (anxious, probably PDA) tween was reading over my shoulder and laughed, then said "'spiraling into a self-defeating loop of doom.' Wow, relatable."
Also love Atomic Habits! And also the expression ‘Perfection is the enemy of good enough’
Love the perspective on if/then!
This is such a great reframe. I think people often mistake low demand with having no boundaries (and sometimes that may be the case but it doesn't have to be). It's about changing an approach. Moving away from demands (although not always possible) and focusing on our own boundaries, and collaborating to meet everyone's needs.
My daughter also doesn't want to get rid of any of her her things. I often feel like I need to decanter just because it feels like we have too much stuff. But the reality is that right now we do have enough space. And when I know longer feel like we do, then that will be my boundary.
You brought back memories, so much of how you approach this sounds like how I was - once I'd started to clear out the conditioned, negative thought habits in my head (all the 'shoulds' and perfectionist ideals) and start paying attention to what was needed - and wanted - in the here and now.
There's a lot to appreciate here, but I mostly want to say that my (anxious, probably PDA) tween was reading over my shoulder and laughed, then said "'spiraling into a self-defeating loop of doom.' Wow, relatable."
I mean, I’m not GLAD that they relate to that per se, but since they already do, I’m glad I got my words right 😅